Adoption
Decision Making Process | Who Chooses Adoption | Adoption Options | Adoption Services
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Adoption is a journey of love. You are considering what is best for your baby simply by seeking education about adoption. | |
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You may have many questions as you begin looking at adoption ... | |
| * How will I do it? | ||
| * Is adoption the best choice for my baby? | ||
| * Can I be sure that this is the right decision for me? | ||
| * What will my family think? | ||
| * How will I find adoptive parents? | ||
| * Can I contact the adoptive family after placement? | ||
| * What is an open adoption? | ||
| * How is placing my baby an act of love? | ||
| You are precious to God. Your child is precious to God. | |
| Your situation is special. Your decision is special. We can share information with you that will help you as you make this most difficult decision. | |
| Adoption counseling services are confidential. For additional information from one of our loving counselors, please call us. We'd love to help you. |
Adoption is a loving alternative to abortion and parenting. We are adopted into God's family and many people throughout the Scriptures were adopted beginning with Moses. Everybody wins in adoption. The adoptive parents, many times, have been married for more than 5 years and have been through costly fertility procedures and many times they experience miscarriages. They desperately want a child and feel that their family is made complete by the gift of this precious child. The child wins because he/she is placed in a loving stable environment, provided with all the physical, financial, emotional and spiritual things needed by every child. The birthmother wins because she has real peace of mind knowing her baby has been placed in a home with parents of her choosing. She is confident she has provided all the things she wants for her baby through an adoption plan and then she is able to achieve the goals she has for herself and her future.
For many birthmothers, this will be the most important decision she will ever make in her lifetime. The pregnant girl/woman is already a mother of the baby inside her womb. As a parent, she has the responsibility of making the best plan for her baby. She has many questions as she looks at parenting and adoption. We can help her look at her circumstances and decide what God's plan is concerning her and her baby. We will meet with her weekly providing education on parenting and adoption in order to help her determine the best plan for her baby. She must put her baby first when making this decision, and for some that is a very hard thing to do.
Adoption is a wonderful choice for a birthmother who finds herself in an unplanned pregnancy. Birthmothers have various reasons why they are unable to parent. Most want a better life for their baby, and adoption will provide that. Many times the birthfather is not around anymore and there would be no father image for their baby. Some birthmothers feel they are not emotionally or physically able to handle a baby at this time in their life, and almost always, finances are a major reason for choosing adoption.
When a birthmother chooses adoption, we refer her to one of the two attorneys that we work with in our area. We believe that birthmothers should be held in high esteem and treated with honor and respect. Both attorneys have integrity and promote a relationship between the adoptive parents and birthmother that meets the desires of all concerned. Many different relationships can develop between the birthmother and adoptive parents. In "closed" adoption no information is given to the birthmother about the baby or adoptive parents and the adoptive parents have no information about the birthmother. In "open" adoption, the birthmother actually chooses the adoptive parents. She has the option of not only looking at a profile of the adoptive parents, but she can have telephone communication with them as well as meeting them personally. Open adoption seems to give the birthmother the most peace about her decision and her emotional healing comes quicker and more fully than closed adoption.
We are an advocate for the birthmother. The first time she enters our doors we join her and walk with her through her entire pregnancy, placement and post-adoption. We meet with her once a week, one on one, working through workbooks and other materials concerning adoption, preparing her individual plan for adoption. We have a wonderful support group of birthmothers who have already placed and those who are considering placing. They meet every Tuesday evening to encourage and help each other develop a plan that works best for them. They share what worked for them and why. They stand by each other when babies are born and rejoice and mourn with each other. The birthmother knows we will always be there for her, especially after the birth and placement, because that's when she needs us the most.
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Care Pregnancy Center
Touching Lives With Care and Hope
122 N. Moon Ave., Brandon, FL 33510
(813) 654-0491
E-mail: BCPC@tampabay.rr.com
